Babywearing and Children with Special Needs – My Experience

Being a parent to a child with special needs often means that everyday life looks a little different. For me, babywearing has not only been a practical way to get through the day with my children, but also a source of comfort, closeness, and relief in moments that could otherwise have been overwhelming.

Closeness that creates security

My child has autism, which means that certain situations and environments can easily become overwhelming. Loud noises, too many impressions, or sudden changes can quickly feel like too much. Carrying my child in a wrap or carrier has given them a safe place – where they can feel my heartbeat, my warmth, and my breathing. For us, babywearing has often been the difference between chaos and calm.

Practical support in daily life

As a parent, you sometimes need two free hands – to help siblings, to shop, or simply to drink a cup of coffee. Being able to carry while still doing other tasks has made a big difference in our family. For me, babywearing has been a way to create more balance between the children, so that no one had to feel left out.

Safety in everyday life

Another reason I babywear is because my child is prone to running off. This can be a constant worry when we’re out in public or in places where it’s difficult to keep full control. With a wrap or carrier, I know my child is close, safe, and secure with me. It has given both of us greater freedom to go out and experience things together.

Babywearing as relief

Children with autism may sometimes need more closeness than you expect. For us, that has often meant my child wanted to be near me almost all the time. This can be exhausting – both physically and mentally. An ergonomic wrap or carrier has made it possible for me to carry longer and to avoid so much pain in my own body. It has been an investment in both my child’s well-being and my own.

My advice to other parents

• Dare to try different options. Every child is unique – some prefer a woven wrap, others a carrier.

• Think about ergonomics. The right fit makes a huge difference for both you and your child.

• Listen to your child. Sometimes they want to be carried, sometimes not – and both are okay.

• Seek support. There are babywearing groups online, instructors, and other parents who are happy to share their experiences.

Final thoughts

For me, babywearing has been more than just a practical tool – it has been a way to bond, to create security, and to find small moments of breathing space in an intense everyday life. Having a child with autism brings many unique challenges, but also unique moments of closeness and joy. And sometimes, a wrap or carrier can make a much bigger difference than you might think.